If you’ve ever struggled with self-hate, negative body image, or insecurity, THIS POST IS FOR YOU. So many of us spend every single day tearing ourselves down and hurting ourselves to achieve an impossible ideal of perfection—so instead, let’s punch that bully in our brains right in the mouth, let’s learn to love ourselves exactly as we are now, and let’s realize that we’re beautiful no matter what we look like.
Whether you’re fat, thin, short, tall, curvy, broad-shouldered, muscular, shaped like a potato, have thighs that don’t touch, have thighs that rub together so much that they chafe, have a prosthetic limb, use a wheelchair, have non-existent boobs, have huge boobs, have no waist, have a tiny waist, have a BODY, any type of body, we hope that these lessons help you in your quest to become a confident, unstoppable badass. WE LOVE YOU.
All gorgeous illustrations by @thelatestkate!
Lesson 1: Hating yourself is an EPIC waste of time.
If you’ve convinced yourself that self-hatred is somehow is making you a better person and getting you closer to your goals, STOP THINKING THAT. Self-hatred is Tom Riddle’s diary and you are Ginny, and you need to stab that sucker with the biggest Basilisk fang you can find. Next time you start obsessing over your weight, or comparing yourself to people on Instagram, or tearing yourself down when you look in the mirror, please, PLEASE, tell the bully in your brain to SHUT THE EFF UP.
Lesson 2: Identifying Positive Role Models Is REALLY, REALLY Important
Rebel Wilson, Melissa McCarthy, Amy Schumer, and Adele don’t have flat stomachs or tiny waists or gravity-defying boobs*, but they don’t give a shit—their weight doesn’t stop them from getting up in front of the world and leveling all of us with their awesomeness.
If you find yourself obsessing over the “ideal” body glorified by every form of media, for gourdsake, STOP LOOKING AT THAT STUFF. Limit your exposure to anything that has ever made you feel bad about yourself, and instead fill up your Pinterest boards and your bedroom walls and your Instagram feed with incredible quotes by Mary Lambert, and hilarious gifs of Rebel Wilson, and awesome articles about how Serena Williams is inspiring girls everywhere to pursue their athletic dreams and how Melissa McCarthy is changing the face of female comedians in Hollywood.
Most of all, try to find women you admire for more than their looks—and the next time you’re feeling insecure or worthless or miserable about your body, just ask yourself, “What would Rebel Wilson do?”
She’d put on a catsuit, crank up her favorite song, and UNLEASH HER AWESOMENESS UPON THE UNSUSPECTING PUBLIC—and dammit, THAT’S EXACTLY WHAT YOU’RE GOING TO DO, TOO. (But the catsuit can just be metaphorical, if you want.)
Lesson 3: Your Weight Has Nothing to Do With Your Worth
Interesting, kind people give ZERO CHICKEN NUGGETS about your cankles or your stomach rolls—they love you for your humor, your awkwardness, your mind, your unrivaled Harry Potter knowledge, and your friendship. There is so much more to me and you than our bodies and our weight, and if we can accept that—really, REALLY accept it–we’ll become the best versions of ourselves.
IN CONCLUSION: The process of accepting our bodies, being kind to ourselves, and recognizing how AMAZING we are can be a knock-down, drag-out fight, and some days it’s going to feel impossible. But no matter how far back we fall, and how many obstacles we face along the way, all we have to do is keep trying. We’re a rag-tag, gorgeous, brilliant bunch of dorks in Dumbledore’s Self-Love Army, and every time we tell ourselves that we’re good enough just the way we are, we’re one step closer to knowing it’s true.